Self respect...are you happy, energetic, charismatic and successful as you'd like to be?

Dear Valued Friend,

Welcome back and thanks for your valuable time, hang onto your seat, this ride is bumpy and wild.

Fair warning: In this series, I'm going to be brutually honest with you and tell-it-like-it-is.

You may like my style or you may not...hey, all I'm saying is don't let that blind you.

I'm not here to please everyone so if you take offence at being exposed to the truth, that's your problem not mine, just click the back button and be on your way to fairytale land...

Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! But then again you already know that was a lot of bullshit, wasn't it?

Believe me I'm not wanting to be loud or in your face, yet I trust you understand all-in-all, it's in making the connection with a sense of belonging, after all this is all about you...my friend.

If you're still here...well, you and me are part of a group now, thanks I appreciate you.

I want you to ask yourself a question: "how can you improve yourself...your energy and personal relationships at the level of happiness with success in everything you do?

The choice is yours...right:

• Do you know what it takes to make yourself happy, charismatic, and confident?
• Don't worry, you're not alone...but do you think, a new style, clothes, partner, lessons in how to talk or act will do the trick?
• Do you think that respect and confidence goes hand in hand with success?
  Do you think you're not successful until you've made a lot more money?
• Do you believe people with those qualities were simply born with them, and that you weren't, so you can't even hope to have them?

Well then stick around and I'll give you the good news because guess what?

Absolutely none of that stuff's true!

You can have all the money in the world, fancy car, house, clothes, shoes, hairstyle etc; and you still won't radiate your true character...unless the fire comes within your belly and from deep inside your heart.

Your head (thoughts and emotions) are all aligned to your vision of who you are.

You can have the most passionate and loving partner with an intense sexual relationship, but it will all fall apart and run into challenges if you don't like yourself.

It doesn't matter how you walk and talk and move around if you're not confident.

Your own opinion of yourself will still show though, anyway and your partner will pick-up on it.

Confidence is a mixture of inter-personal variables and it doesn't come without success because you're struggling to be successful if you can't be confident...its' kinda like a catch 22 situation.

On the other hand, self-confidence is the ingredient that blends success... just ask anyone who's started out with nothing and achieved their dreams!

As for being born with all these qualities....yes, you have been blessed with them all.

In fact, everybody is. It's dealing with the world that fills your mind with wrong ideas and inhibitions that obscure your vision, and steals your dream.

All you have to do is just rebuild your confidence and spontaneity. The way to sparkle is to have self-confidence – and to have self-confidence you have to build a positive self-image and high self-esteem.

Those three things are very closely connected, but they often confused because the difference between them is subtle:-

• Your self-image is the way you see yourself - attractive, successful, creative, generous, etc.;

• Your self-esteem is how you feel about yourself, and that's based totally on your self-image.

Iif you like the way you see yourself, you've a high self-esteem, and if you don't like the way you see yourself there's no way you're going to feel good about who you are...you're faking it

• Your self-confidence determines how you act and it's based entirely on action and reaction that is to say the things your self-image and your self-esteem are expressing who you are

You simply cannot act in any way that's inconsistent with your self-image and the level of your self-esteem. It's just not possible because you're in a constant state of resistence and confusion.

• If you see yourself as generous, in reality you can't ignore giving your time and energy, you can't act like an arsehole. It would be inconsistent with the real person you see yourself to be...

• If you see yourself as successful, you'll have the confidence to go for what you want, and you'll take any short-term failures in your stride, learning lessons from them and doing better next time

• If you see yourself as likeable, you'll make friends easily because you'll have the confidence that people like you and will welcome being friends with you.

• If you see yourself as resourceful, you'll deal with difficulties easily, and then welcome them as an opportunity to keep learning because you enjoy using your problem-solving skills...